When we spend our energy and thoughts building an internal “I should” list, those thoughts can quickly free-fall into “I’m not doing enough”, “I’m not good enough” & “I am not enough”. The challenge to keep up to what you think you should be doing as a mum begins to feel a lot like trying to conquer Mount Everest.

We all have days where we are riding high, grateful for everything we are surrounded by and fully living in the very best version of ourselves and life. On the other hand we can also have days of the opposite kind. Overwhelm, insecurity, depleted energy, procrastination it all results in… You’re not enough.

The sleepless nights, the business, the job, the study, the adult relationships, the household, the little people relying on you to eat, dress, sleep and do life, the school drop offs and pickups, the tears, tantrums and overload, the teenage angst, transitions into adulthood, friendships… I see you in all of it and the feelings it stirs.

I’m all about the long term confidence & self-love game and to see lasting results we need to lay solid foundations first. Grab a coffee and get comfy, girlfriend. We’re about to gain a deeper understanding of 7 words that are going to give you the confidence to keep going on your journey of self-discovery and freedom.

As a society we are exposed to largely negative messages about our bodies, food and lifestyle. With a good versus bad, perfect versus imperfect, all or nothing approach being marketed to us there is a significant toll being taken on mental health and wellbeing.

Here’s a point you may not have considered though. Holding onto expectations is like keeping your blinkers on, you are living from a restricted view of the world and allowing your inner critic to play a leading role.

People will talk about us in a negative way, sustaining positive growth will require too much within our daily routine, what if I’m too fit, healthy, skinny, strong? I’ll be judged, I don’t know what the new routine/space/habit will look like so i’ll keep doing what I’m doing right now because it’s within my control, what if i become “too perfect/successful”?, I don’t have time.

My son started preschool this year and yesterday I was able to go and do lunch duty with his class. I LOVED being able to see him in his new environment now we have found our rhythm and the initial shock of going has worn off for him (and me!)

With any type of growth comes discomfort, the feeling of being stretched, vulnerability, an uneasiness in the pit of your stomach or the need to shy away. Like everything in life, it will show up in a different form for everyone.

So often we are fearful of any type of failure and so we avoid it at all costs. But is this fear of failure holding you back from getting started? Are you keeping yourself small by not showing up at all? Are you fearful of failing because of the feelings it evokes in you?